What They Want
Men say "I love you" before women do: Robust across several countries
Christopher Watkins et al.
Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, forthcoming
Abstract:
Feeling and expressing love is at the core of romantic relationships, but individuals differ in their proclivity to worry about their relationships and/or avoid intimacy. Saying "I love you" signals a commitment to a future with our romantic partner. Contrary to gender stereotypes, research in the United States demonstrates that men are more likely to confess love first. We aimed to replicate this sex difference in an online cross-national sample (seven countries, three continents), while testing for variation according to attachment style and environment (the national sex ratio). Men were more likely to confess love first in a relationship, with preliminary evidence that this was more likely when men had more choice (more female-biased sex ratio). Independent of biological sex, highly avoidant respondents were less happy to hear "I love you" than less avoidant respondents, and highly anxious respondents were happier to hear "I love you" than less anxious respondents. Our findings suggest that prior observations generalize beyond an ethnically homogenous sample and incorporate attachment theory into the study of love confessions. Our research suggests a dissociation between initial declarations of love (moderated by biological sex) and emotional responses to love confessions, moderated by attachment style but not by biological sex.
Women Get Worse Sex: A Confound in the Explanation of Gender Differences in Sexuality
Terri Conley & Verena Klein
Perspectives on Psychological Science, forthcoming
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Gender differences in sexuality have gained considerable attention both within and outside of the scientific community. We argue that one of the main unacknowledged reasons for these differences is simply that women experience substantially worse sex than men do. Thus, in examinations of the etiology of gender differences in sexuality, a confound has largely been unacknowledged: Women and men are treated to different experiences of what is called "sexuality" and "having sex." We discuss four arenas in which women's experience of sexuality may often be worse than men's: (a) anatomical differences, (b) sexual violence, (c) stigma, and (d) masculine cultures of sexuality. Then we consider how each disparity might explain well-known gender differences in sexuality.
Gendered Anti-Bisexual Bias: Heterosexual, Bisexual, and Gay/Lesbian People's Willingness to Date Sexual Orientation Ingroup and Outgroup Members
Mackenzie Ess, Sara Burke & Marianne LaFrance
Journal of Homosexuality, forthcoming
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Bisexual people may appear to have more potential romantic partners than people only attracted to one gender (e.g., heterosexual, gay, lesbian people). However, bisexual people's dating choices are limited by non-bisexual people's reluctance to date bisexual people. Studies have indicated that some heterosexual, gay, and lesbian people are reluctant to date bisexual people, particularly bisexual men. We extend current understandings of gendered anti-bisexual bias through investigating heterosexual, bisexual, gay, and lesbian people's reported willingness to date within and outside of their sexual orientation groups. Participants (n = 1823) varying in sexual orientation completed measures regarding their willingness to engage in a romantic relationship with heterosexual, bisexual, gay, and lesbian individuals. Heterosexual and gay/lesbian people were less willing to date bisexual people than bisexual people were to date them, consistent with anti-bisexual bias rather than mere in-group preference. Preferences against dating bisexual men appeared particularly strong, even among bisexual women.
Do Women Withhold Honest Sexual Communication When They Believe Their Partner's Manhood is Threatened?
Jessica Jordan et al.
Social Psychological and Personality Science, forthcoming
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We explored whether women who perceive that their partners' manhood is precarious (i.e., easily threatened) censor their sexual communication to avoid further threatening their partners' masculinity. We operationalized women's perceptions of precarious manhood in a variety of ways: In Study 1, women who made more money than their partners were twice as likely as those who did not to fake orgasms. In Study 2, women's higher perceptions of partners' precarious manhood indirectly predicted faking orgasms more, lower sexual satisfaction, and lower orgasms rate through greater anxiety and less honest communication. In Study 3, women who imagined a partner whose masculinity was insecure (vs. secure) were less willing to provide honest sexual communication, via anxiety. Together, the studies demonstrate a relationship between women's perceptions of partner insecurity, anxiety, sexual communication, and sexual satisfaction.
Sex, drugs, and coercive control: Gendered narratives of methamphetamine use, relationships, and violence
Heith Copes et al.
Criminology, February 2022, Pages 187-218
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While many of the motives people provide for using drugs transcend gender, there are also notable gendered differences. These differences in motive talk aid in stigma management, shape gender performances, and can encourage or constrain behavior. Using data from a photoethnography with 52 people who use methamphetamine in rural Alabama, we find that men and women articulate their motives for drug use in distinctly gendered ways. Most notably, men emphasized the benefits of sex on meth while most of the women did not. Men's stories of meth as a sex drug shaped how they interacted with women often leading them to use violence and coercion to control when, where, and with whom women used meth. Women were less likely to say that increased sexual feelings was their primary motive for using meth. They drew on gendered themes of femininity (e.g., motherhood, home keeper) when explaining their drug use. They also sought ways to resist coercive control that were intertwined with their gendered narratives of drug use. The findings point to the importance of gendered narratives in shaping interactions, and significantly, how narratives can contribute to harm and reinforce gender inequality in drug markets.
Effects of a Novel Erectogenic Condom on Men and Women's Sexual Pleasure: Randomized Controlled Trial
Maria Gallo et al.
Journal of Sex Research, forthcoming
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We tested whether CSD500 (Futura Medical; Guildford, UK), a novel condom containing erectogenic gel designed to increase penile firmness, penile size, and erection duration, results in greater sexual pleasure. In 2017-2020, we randomized heterosexual couples in Thanh Hoa, Vietnam to use CSD500 (N = 248) or standard condoms (N = 252) and followed them up for six months. Women completed the Quality of Sexual Experience (QSE) scale; men completed the QSE, Sexual Experience Questionnaire (SEX-Q), and 11 condom acceptability items. Female participants' mean age was 32.1 years (SD = 0.24; range 21-46). QSE scores were higher among women (B, 0.12; 95% CI, 0.03-0.21) and men (B, 0.21; 95% CI, 0.08-0.35) in the CSD500 relative to the control arm. SEX-Q scores were higher among men in the CSD500 compared to the control arm (B, 3.22; 95% CI, 1.53-4.91). Higher proportions of men in the CSD500 relative to the control arm reported the condom felt "natural" during sex (68.6% vs. 32.3%; p < .01) and that sex with the condom felt "a lot better" than condomless sex (15.5% vs. 5.3%; p < .01). Compared with standard condoms, CSD500 use was associated with higher reports of sexual pleasure and condom acceptability.